One of the phrases I often hear is “I gave myself permission for….”.
Interestingly, it is typically used as a sign of personal empowerment.
“I know I deserve some “me” time, so I gave myself permission to take the Sunday morning off and go for a walk”
“I have been working out so hard so I gave myself permission to eat some ice-cream as a reward”
How empowering are these sentences really?
Just because we are the one giving the permission, does it change the fact that we are still seeking for approval?
Wouldn’t it be more empowering to say –
“I know I want some “me” time, so I am going to take the Sunday morning off and go for a walk”
“I have been working out so hard so I’ll just go ahead and enjoy some ice-cream!”
Do we really need permission to do things that we enjoy? That we work for? That we – dare I say it – just simply want?
It is very liberating to stop issuing permits! In good conscience, we really know what we can and can’t do. Giving a permission is not going to change that.
Now go ahead and take charge of your life! You really don’t need my permission to empower yourselves!
Asli Aker is a Global Leadership and Organizational Development Expert based in Seattle, WA. She has living and working experience in North America, Europe, Asia and the Middle East with a client profile from all around the world.
As a coach, Asli has worked with leaders to help them take on mission critical challenges, manage complex demands and remain authentic along the way. She has 15 years of coaching experience with executives, high potentials and senior leaders.
For more information about Asli, do visit her website.
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